eeping a man satisfied is not an easy thing to do. It requires a lot of work. You have to give a lot that is there in you to make it work and no, you cannot even think of calling it a cakewalk. It is not. There are so many expectations and hard work that love and relationships need. But, still, there are some people who walked away from their relationship and they had their reasons to do the same.
Here’s what they have to say:
They are not truly invested.
“So the first reason men lose interest in a relationship is because he’s not truly invested in the relationship. If he has one foot in, and the other foot out, it means he’s just renting your ‘space’. If he’s not ‘all in’, it’s not that difficult for him to lose interest. Because he’s not looking to buy, just rent…”
That insecure feeling can make him give up on you.
“We are all human, yes we all feel insecure. However, if I get my ear constantly chewed off for talking to a female friend, mine or yours and then get the silent treatment or into an argument for being social it’s a big no no. Also, don’t attempt to make us jealous, we can see it a mile off. You will get a reaction and it won’t usually be positive.”
Getting mad at him for no reason at all.
“If you get mad especially when you don’t get to spend time with your girls, it is so wrong. If you want to go out with them fine, go have a girly night out. I don’t want to be the only guy in the group who ends up watching the bags and coats while you guys dance around in the club.”
Expecting us to give all the attention to you.
“I cannot give you attention all the time, we have friends and family too, yes I want to spend most of my time with you but don’t get upset when I choose to spend some time with the guys, or my family. Men need space away from you from time to time or we can become drained and restless when we feel trapped.”
Stop treating us like your child, we are not your adopted baby.
“Mothering us, yes it’s nice of you to wash our clothes or make us a meal, however don’t start trying to tell us what we can and can’t do, who we can talk too, what to wear, when to have a shave etc. This never works out well. We are willing to listen to suggestions and your advice sure. However, when you start giving out orders we will start to march….out the door.”
He has a back up plan.
“The boy’s got options. Nothing get’s a dude more fired up than the thrill of a new chase. The homey has lost 30 pounds and now his swag is back. Or there’s some new hottie at the office. Maybe he found a new muse scrolling through Instagram.
Look, here’s a harsh reality. He will stay with you as long as he thinks you are his best option. And let’s be honest, many women are doing the same thing, even if they don’t like thinking of it that coldly.”
Withholding sex, as punishment or a bargaining tool. It will get boring quickly.
“You cannot say that you are not going have sex with us just because we did something that you didn’t like. Punishing your partner like that is just being kiddish. Come, sit and talk to us.”
Being abusive is not a solution to any problem.
“Physical or verbal abuse, when you lash out and start screaming and shouting, calling us names and profanities etc..We will either retaliate or we will instantly lose any respect for you. If you are angry or upset we don’t want to be brought to your level. We often walk away saying nothing because we know that when you reach that point, nothing we do or say will change things. We will talk when you calm down. Or we will keep walking especially if it becomes a regular occurrence.”
You are not that important for him.
“You aren’t an asset. You will be evaluated, based on the level of value you bring to his life and goals. So if you are insecure and need constant attention, if he feels you’re nagging him or pressuring him, if the sex isn’t what he wants, if there is too much drama, etc. Then you’re not seen as beneficial to him, or perhaps not beneficial to the lifestyle he is pursuing. Which makes him mentally pack the bags…”
We cannot apologise for your embarrasing behaviour.
“Constantly heavy drinking. Yes we enjoy a drink too, and often we are all guilty of taking it too far, but if we have to constantly endure you drinking wine after wine and then watch you make a fool of yourself. While we apologise to everyone else for your behaviour. On a regular basis then it gets really boring really quickly.”